CAPTAIN'S BLOG
This post is in response to this post on reddit.
Coming out to my mother did not go as I expected. She's an intelligent, high-wisdom person who cares about her family and ensuring people are as happy as they could be. She thinks gay people are just fine, and has said to me more than once that if I was gay, she would be ok with that and would love and protect me just as much as before, if not a little more, just in case. So I was pretty shocked when I told her "I think I want to be a woman" she freaked right the fuck out. Crying, shock, disbelief, bargaining - you name it. I also overheard her say to her husband "Well, at least he's not a murderer" which definitely did not land well.
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Note: I am introducing an abbreviation for my website in an effort to help the people who might know me avoid learning things about me they may not wish to read: Not Safe For Family or NSFF. These posts contains details about my sex life, sexual preferences, and other details some people may not want to know, despite my willingness to share such information freely.
I wrote this in response to this post on Reddit. It contains some information that people new to taking hormones may not know, and some reflections on the effects transitioning and especially hormones have had on my life. Erections overall will decrease. You will probably also lose a bit of length, especially when you're soft. Full hardness is still possible, but only with a reasonable dose of Viagra (which does work) and/or with a different kind of being turned on. Porn doesn't get me hard anymore, but making out and foreplay and being dominated sure do. Different kinds of movement feel good as well - stroking feels good, but it's less about the tightness of your grip and more about massaging your frenulum as if it was a clit, which it basically is. Also, it's not just about the orgasm anymore - they're definitely still amazing, and last much longer, but the pleasure of foreplay is astounding, and sexual satisfaction can be derived from your partner finishing rather than your need to orgasm. Being sexually satisfied after your girlfriend cums in your mouth is a fun and interesting change. The funny thing about polyamory is that it involves a great deal more working things out than in most monogamous relationships.
Serial monogamy requires abandoning one partner in order to even begin exploring the potential of another partner, so there's actually less social pressure on giving up than there is with serial monogamy. My life is at a crossroads.
I see three paths in front of me. One leads to Aria and our long and beautiful future together. One leads to Andrew and our perhaps shorter future together. Another leads to them both, in my perfect scenario, converging at some point into the future into a single future. You know, I think a lot of people stay away from polyamory because they are afraid they will meet someone who will change their lives. |
AuthorChristina Hitchens is a trans female writer living in BC, Canada. She loves computers, animals, and a good argument. Archives
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